🌈 Healing the Inner Divide: Reclaiming the Exiled Parts of Ourselves

There’s a quiet ache many of us carry—the feeling that some part of us is not welcome in the world.

Most of us, at some point in our lives, have learned to suppress parts of ourselves to fit in, feel safe, or be accepted. Whether it’s our sensitivity, intuition, creativity, sexuality, rage, joy, or even our softness—many of us have internalised the belief that certain aspects of our being are too much, not enough, or somehow wrong.

This is the beginning of what I call the inner divide—the fragmentation of the self.

Pride Month, while often celebrated through the lens of sexual and gender identity, offers a deeper, more universal spiritual invitation: to come home to the fullness of who we are. To allow every part of ourselves to exist, to be seen, to be celebrated.

The Cost of Hiding

When we exile parts of ourselves—whether out of shame, trauma, or conditioning—we lose touch with our natural coherence. The flow between mind, body, and spirit becomes disrupted. We begin to feel like something is missing, even if we can’t name what it is.

This fragmentation can manifest in many ways:

• Chronic stress, tension, or illness

• Emotional reactivity or numbness

• Burnout, confusion, or lack of direction

• A sense of inner conflict, or disconnection from one’s purpose

These aren’t signs of failure—they’re signals from within, asking us to return. To look with love at the parts of ourselves we’ve judged or buried, and to remember: wholeness is our true nature.

The Mandala of the Self

One of the practices I use in my work to support this inner reunification is the Mandala of the Self. It’s a visual and energetic process where we create a sacred circle—either physically or symbolically—using crystals, stones, or small objects that each represent a part of ourselves.

Each item is placed with intention:

• A black stone might represent grief or shadow.

• A rose quartz may stand for tenderness or the inner child.

• A shard of raw crystal could symbolise truth.

• A golden piece might carry the essence of joy or sovereignty.

Some parts we tend to honour. Others, we’d rather leave out of view. But in this mandala, nothing is exiled. Everything belongs. Even the parts that were once hidden are now seen, acknowledged, and integrated into the whole.

What emerges is a living symbol of your inner world—a masterpiece that reveals the beauty of wholeness, not perfection. It’s not about fixing what’s “wrong,” but celebrating what’s real.

This practice helps us move out of fragmentation and back into coherence. It reminds us that the Divine doesn’t operate through suppression, but through unity. Wholeness heals.

From Shame to Sovereignty

Healing the inner divide means turning toward ourselves—not with judgment, but with love. It is the practice of remembering that every part of us holds a frequency, a message, a medicine.

When we bring these pieces back into alignment, we no longer feel scattered, small, or ashamed. We begin to stand in our centre—sovereign, grounded, at peace.

This is the Pure State: the felt sense of being whole and undivided.

And while this work is deeply personal, it also contributes to the collective. Because when we embody our wholeness, we naturally create space for others to do the same.

A Gentle Invitation

If you feel called, I invite you to create your own Mandala of the Self.

Find a quiet space. Gather stones, crystals, or objects that speak to you. Without overthinking, let each one represent a part of yourself—loved or unloved, light or shadow. Place them in a circle.

As you create, allow yourself to feel. Witness what arises. You may be surprised at what you've pushed aside. Welcome it in.

Let this be your prayer:

“All of me is welcome. All of me belongs.”